Pain is Inevitable, but Misery is Optional.

First,Happy Labour Day to all the employees and the employers and Have a blessed holiday too...

Okay, i guess i just have to go straight to the point. See, how many times do we experiences loss in our life? Once? Twice ? or more than that ? but for sure everybody will have that experience so don't worry. See, one of the most difficult lessons in life is how to accept loss. And its an ongoing process since our lives constantly change and we're forced to confront the harsh realities of a world that's far from perfect. Whether you are single or married, teacher or student,you have most likely faced some moment when your world was shaken to its foundation. Failed in an examination, broke up with your....., money fly away and much much more.... And maybe for the children, a divorce and a heart attack...but for me, i loss my boyfriend now... i mean we're not break up. its just that he is there and i'm here. You see, although it will be for just a period of time but when something change, the way you act, the way you did, the way you feel and the way you think are different too. I think i going to talk about the difficulities first. Yes,he had applied his enrolment in American Transfer Degree Program which going to take about 4year to complete his study and to become a successful Civil Engineer. Amen. Actually, just before he goes to Selangor study, i knew that one day he is going to somewhere leaving me at here in order to study or whatever the case put him into but for sure the thing come and say " Hi " to me now and there is nothing to do except to accept.

While he still at here last two weeks, he told me a lot and he scares too,scares the same thing happens again. hm, i have nothing to do with it because i just cant convince him how to take care of himself and dont worry about me. I have to say the past still haunting him right now. huh, sometimes i felt tired to say the same thing, talking about the same thing, hear the same thingy. but i believed time will heal and actually 'm happy that he going far away from me. One is because i can continue my life as usual and of course hoping he will meet someone , who is much better then me. Amen. I'm very thankful , thanks to God that He gives me strenght when you are not here , speaks to me through His words and hears my prayer.

One thing - faith test one when he or she loss someone. and i have to admit that during these time, my faith can be shaken to the core. And on one hand , such trials and painful and losses force me to count on God. I pray for him night and day hoping my prayer assist him in his life. Something happen we do have our option right? I'm not going to let myself be sad just because of that, I know God testing our faith and this is just a small task. Right, i should remember, the same as a spectacular Vogue magazine, remember that no matter how close you follow the jumps: Continued on page whatever. No matter how careful you are, there's going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn't experience it all. There's that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should've been paying attention. Well, get used to that feeling. That's how your whole life will feel some day. This is all practice. None of this matters. We're just warming up. Yes, Thats right. Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever, so keep it up Sharon.

Give Yourself A Break

I'm very stressful right now . That is why i give myself a break right now. Hoping after i expressed all the stress inside this blog, i can continue my study as usual.

We give ourselves such a hard time. We are much harder on ourselves than on the others. When our friends make mistakes, big or small, we offer them comfort and support. We want to help them badly and we do always offer a shoulder for them to cry on. But do we rarely show ourselves the same understanding? For me, spending one day playing game on a weekday seems very hard to me because i keep on thinking about others. Others are struggling on their preparation for the coming test or examination while me ? Playing game ? not a good idea for me. And this is why I study before... but after i realized that i have a bad purpose on study, i have changed. And thanks to God,I''m not fighting with someone but is to fight with myself. You see, people always think on how to win other people without try to win themselves first. So,overall... relaxing and take a brake are very hard for me to do. All i know is to push and force myself. But , i have to say that stress is actually good. And i believe everyone experiences a very stressful situation and that situation make them become more mature, pratical and zealous towards life.

And after all the journey of discovering what it feels like taking a brake or in other words " Enjoy " , i found it. But i failed to control it wisely. When giving yourself a break, you dont want to abandon self-control or self -observation. It is always important to think about our actions and examine what is actually are we going to do and is this " break " has it purpose ? Or just " well, that is me. Life is about to enjoy. We still have time. " Oh my ...... really? I'm amazed if one's life is just as simple as that ! I appreciated him for teaching me how to " take a brake ". For me, it is really important as an ordinary person like us.

School, family , lover and as a believer, i have my own purpose on every of that aspects and maybe that is also why I've been so stress. Its because my expectation in every of that aspects. I'm so tired. I have to do the chores at home. Finishing all the homework at school and care for someone that i love the most and also be a good believer that always obey His words. But without this kind of character in life, i think the meaning of " life " is " empty ". Different type of situation that bring people into different kind of dimension made this " life " becomes beautiful, amazing and splendid. Like " Love " in my past post . It is intangible , unpredictable and certainly uncontrollable . This is what make it painful, but this is also what makes it so wonderful. We need to remember to be grateful and honored by its presence in our lives. Talking about grateful, it is very not a very easy lesson to learn. See! How wonderful this life is .... Many things to learn.

So,the resolution is... its good to give stress to yourself but make sure that it has it limit. But when you exceed the actual value of stress , heal it by taking a break but when you take a break, also make sure you wont overdose it.... Because when you do , you become lazy and that is why i said self - control is very vital. Hmm, and now am i exceeding my " break time "? I guess I'm not ! :)

Caring is the one most noble pursuit

Last Friday,as usual i went to school but em.... I knew i have another significance things to do instead of going to class and study because that day i have an opportunity to help people , who need my help so much - the disabilities (OKU) students.They came from 20 schools including the primary and the secondary school as well. I love to do this kind of activities,not only it gives me the chance to collect an experiences but also get to know more about the disabilities children . I'm the one of the five students , who had been selected to participate in this program - Program Outreach Pendidikan Khas Kementerian Pelajaran Malaysia. The others are Ivy, Riss, Andreson and Fronica. We are all from the same class - 5 Alpha. There are a lot of events in this program since our school is the host, who entertain another as our guess. Five of us already done all the biographical details of the disabilities students in our school for the exhibition on that day. Yeah, and the others public display about their activity for the past whole year until this year. And while the five of us work hard to present the best for the guess who might come on that day, then we realize that some of the disabilities students have higher accomplishment than the normal students in our school no matter in the aspect of curriculum or co-curriculum. Its such an amazing grace. We were so proud to give a little talk on our disabilities children in our school to the people, who came and ask a question about them. And there are also a bunch of handicraft, sewing and drawing products made by the disabilities students that are exhibited on that day.

At the same time on that day,the students, who came from different schools are being tested by the expert to identify their problem . Basically , there are 3 types of test that the students will be given at : hearing, eyesight and study. Based on the test, we can determine what kind of problem that actually faced by the students. And the disease that they might have are Dyslexia, Down syndrome, deafness and having problem in their eyesight. Dyslexia is a learning difficulty which holds no simple definition; psychologists continue to have difficulties providing clear cut answers as to what it is or how it is actually caused.Down syndrome is a chromosomal disorder caused by the presence of all or part of an extra 21st chromosome.This mean the people who has this illness is caused by the presence of an extra chromosome.Well, i guess i don't have to talk too much on that illness. You guys can check out for more info from the internet.

It was almost one and a half o'clock and 2 o'clock the students will present a song and dance for the Tarian Sumazau. Nah, its time for the girls to do the make up... Although i'm not good at it, but i do know some of the basic. They present it very well. Well done and good job for you guys. Oh ya, i also met a guy on the exhibition. He shared a quiz question for me and i gave him mine. We having a good time. That was really enjoying but so sad i can took a picture with him and also the picture of all the activities at there as a memory. But nevermind it will always be a memory in my mind.

We can put together a collection of links to bring people a hope and help. Knowing that they are not alone in their suffering and they have someone to share it with, which can make a very big difference. Perhaps one of the hardest things in life is coping with illness and pain. In some ways, it can be even harder when we are having to look after a loved one who is ill, than with our own illness. God Bless All of them and also you . Amen.


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Sharon Lim